“Forgive me” – In our family, we try to avoid the
‘I’m sorry’ because it doesn’t always seem sincere enough when true damage has
occurred within a relationship. We leave the ‘sorries’ for time when we
bump into each other or make a mindless mistake, not something that was done on
purpose or with intent.
“I
was wrong” –
Asking for forgiveness is a great place to start, but I have found that my
husband loves when I admit even more to him with the ‘I was wrong’ statement. I
can still see his face the first time this unheard phrase slipped from my lips.
He was really shocked that I could admit being wrong and he instantly softened
toward me.
“I
appreciate how you provide for our family” – Men work hard to provide for their
family and in most cases, they do not get any respect for the work that they
faithfully do for the company they work for and it shouldn’t be the same case
with the family that he works hard to provide for.
“Thank
you” – I
started thanking my husband for the little things he does, like playing with
the kids, helping get our youngest ready for bed, helping with the discipline
of our children and just listening to me. Sharing your gratitude with him
should be second nature, but it really took a focus for me to make it that way
and I’m said I didn’t start earlier.
“You
look so gorgeous” –
I’m a strong believer in ‘if you think it, you need to say it’ because people
need to hear positive thoughts more than negative ones. Telling your husband
that you are still attracted to him, even if he has gained weight or looks
different than he does when you first were married (trust me, you look
different, too). Having confidence in how you view him can help him feel
more confident in your relationship with him.
“What
can I make you for dinner” –
Asking my husband if there is anything special that he would like for breakfast,
lunch or dinner (or even dessert) really let’s him know that I desire to please
him and make him happy. Many times he doesn’t have anything special
because I usually stay with the meals that I know he enjoys, but on occasions,
he has been quick to say that he was hungry for something.
“What
do you think we should do” – I
have always been quick to share my opinion with my husband, however over the
last several years, I have been learning to ask his opinion before giving mine.
It has surprised me to find that many times we were both thinking the
same thing, but allowing him to go first allowed him to feel more of the leader
I have desired him to be in our home. That has been so empowering to him
and an answer to my prayers! And to think, I was the one standing in the
way of getting my heart’s desire.
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