Saturday, 7 April 2018

Can Signatures Unite Two People?!

newly wed couple


I was recently asked by a family friend if I'd want to have a court marriage instead of a proper ceremony. To that I, very honestly, told him that I would prefer a proper wedding inclusive of all the ceremonies. The judgemental look I got for this reply was enough for me to realize that he didn't approve of it. But giving that awful look wasn't enough for him I suppose, it was accompanied by a slight "why do you want to spend your money hosting random relatives and create an event out of your marriage?!"

Why does one think that the sole reason for having a proper wedding is that one wants to make an event out of it? What about the emotional value and the cultural importance affiliated to these ceremonies? Being a hindu, a hindu marriage has three important aspects- kanyadaan, panigrahana, and saptapadi. In the most lay man language, when one goes to explain these three aspects, one can say-
hindu marriage ceremony

  • kanyadaan is the giving away of the daughter by her father
  • panigrahana is the voluntary holding of hands by the groom of the bride near the fire which signifies the union of the bride and the groom
  • saptapadi is the taking seven steps around the holy fire wherein each step is a form of a promise.

The basis of these vows- of being together in happiness and otherwise, being supportive of each other, of taking care of each other, respecting one another, and so on- is almost the same in case of different religions, castes and sub-castes.

My point is why do we take away the importance of such a holy union and reduce it to a mere marriage certificate? What is it that is making us erode the edges and reduce things to make them seem irrelevant? Have these practices got no place in our modern lives now?

Criticizing one's choices is hardly my intention, I'm hardly in a place to do that. This write up is barely about sparking a debate between court marriages and traditional ceremonies. My sole goal, however, is trying to invoke some realization, raise my doubts, jog your treadmill of thoughts, for,

Culture does not make people, People make culture.

Tuesday, 3 April 2018

5 Alternatives To A Bachelorette Party

Not a fan of the clichéd, wild bachelorette parties? You could a plan something different with the help of these 5 ideas jotted down for you.


Spa-cation

lady enjoying a spa
Plan a bachelorette with the sole intention of pampering the groom or the bride before their big day. The best part about this- you needn't plan anything apart from deciding the place of the said spa-cation, everything else will be definitely taken care by the resort.

Health And Wellness Retreat

health and wellness center in Goa

Give the groom or the bride a respite from the constant wedding pressure. Plan a bachelorette in a health and wellness centre to give them some peace of mind. Connect with your (soon to-be-taken) friend without the hindrance of technology.

Go Vagabonding

road trip in the hills

Every bachelorette party list must include this. Take your soon to-be-hitched friend on a road trip with a few close knit friends and make some memories 'Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara' style or 'The hangover' way, whichever suits you.

A Day At...


Haven't got the leverage of planning an entire trip? Plan a day to be spent in a vineyard or take them for some beer tasting or whiskey tasting. This is one of the easiest alternative to the mainstream bachelorette parties.

For The Adventure-holic

bungee jumping

Make sure you plan such a bachelorette only and only if the groom or the bride are adventure-holics. There is an array of options available. It could be anything simple like camping or something super complex like sky diving. All you have to keep in mind is the fact that they haven't done that particualr activity before.