DON'T MOCK ME for you don't understand me...

“You know I was thinking of getting a tattoo.”
“Yeah? Get what though?”
“Ummm…it’s related to the Harry Potter series.”
“Harry Potter. Hmmm. But why? Don’t you think you should get something that means something to you? Something significant."

I was strangely taken aback. But what could I say? I couldn’t help but look like a recoiled hurt snake. Could I explain to him what hurt me? Could I explain to myself what hurt me? Was I merely hurt or were there strata to how I felt?

Could I explain to him that harry potter was an escape for me or is that the most generic answer people hear. Just the other day someone asked me why do you like fiction, and I told him how it was an escape for me. And all he did was smirk at me and say, “Please give me genuine answer which is yours and not just something you read somewhere and say that just because it sounds better than the real answers.”

How do these people judge you like that? And why do they even do that? Some say because they like to term themselves as the realists. Some say because they like to feel superior to you by hurling such questions at you and enjoy seeing you get bewildered. I think I disagree with these opinions. I don’t think it’s in their nature. I don’t think they have an ulterior motive behind saying this or doing this to you. I think they merely lack imagination.

People say there are so many stories already in this world. Why would you then need fiction? Well, fictional stories are only partly fictional. They reflect the authors’ plights, longings, affections, hopes, and so much more. It’s not about what they say but what they mean to say. You think harry potter was merely a series about an orphan with abilities to save the world? No. Hell no. It was so much more than what meets your eye. It’s about love which comes in so many forms, shapes and sizes, it’s about friendship, it’s about what you believe in can be realized.

To me, it was all the above and much more. It taught me how being alone was different from being lonely, how loneliness was just a state of mind, it taught me how I could find friends in the most unlike places, it gave me my first true love- books. How was I to explain to my friend that it might merely be a children’s novel for you, but, it completed me in the most unlikely ways that he could imagine.

What was the tattoo you ask?

LUMOS- for I am my own light.

New age rules for a happy marriage

by Joyoti Mahanta

1.    Time-out
While there are many couples who like to resolve their issues before calling it a night, even if it keeps them up till the wee hours, many relationship experts say that sometimes it’s probably a good idea to sleep over your issues. This way, you can calm down, re-think your stand and not make a decision in haste. Same goes for your spouse. 

2.    Holiday apart
You don’t need to go everywhere together—it’s not like you are attached at the hip. Unless you’re on your honeymoon, it’s okay to holiday apart. Your interests may not match and you may not want to visit the same places. In such cases, it’s better to holiday with your friends; just like it were a bachelorette, rather than spending money on a vacation where one partner is unhappy. That will ruin the others mood too. 

3.    Individual accounts
Many relationship counsellors have said that financial issues are a major cause for breakdown of marriages, especially among today’s independent lot. It may seem like a good idea to maintain separate bank accounts instead of the traditional joint ones. While some may consider this a breach of trust, it seems like a logical way to ensure control over your finances. 

4.    Don’t shop together
Let’s face it—most men hate shopping. They may tag along because of the incessant begging or complaining, but isn’t it better when your shopping buddy is someone who enjoys shopping as well. The next time you are in the mood to splurge, get one of your friends to tag along, who likes to shop and doesn’t mind the long hours.

5.    Socialise separately
Many couples have a set of common friends, but it isn’t necessary to abandon the friends that you have known before marriage. In fact, having different sets of friends will give both of you some space in the relationship. Often, you should let your husband party with his friends, especially when there is a good match on TV, and this way you can make it a date with your girlfriends. 

6.    Share household chores
Women work hard too, so why should we be expected to do all the household chores or confine ourselves to the kitchen once we’re home after a long day of work. As a couple, you should take turns to do household chores like cooking, cleaning and washing the utensils, or atleast offer to help instead of one person toiling away.

7.    Respect ‘me time’
It’s healthy to spend time by yourself once in a while and you don’t have to feel guilty about it. Many relationship experts say that doing things for yourself often leads to a happier relationship.

#HappyBirthday #DUGGU...!!!

#Heartthrob of millions & #Bollywood's own#Superhero #HrithikRoshan turns 40

#HappyBirthday #DUGGU...!!!

Born on January 10, 1974, Hrithik Roshan or Duggu as he is loving called, turned forty today. He personifies style, is often referred to as the Greek God and dances like a dream.

The year 2013 that went by, has been full of highs and lows for our Superhero. Professionally, he was on a high with Krrish 3 performing exceedingly well at the Box-Office. But on the personal front, things were all messed up. Health wise, it was a brain surgery. And on the relationdhip front, it was his separation from Suzanne, ending a seventeen-year-old relationship.

Hrithik Roshan first faced the camera as a child actor in Bhagawan Dada which had his father Rakesh Roshan and Rajinikanth in lead roles.

But after completing his studies, he moved behind the camera and started working as an assistant director to his father Rakesh Roshan in movies like Koyla and Karan Arjun.

In the year 2000 Hrithik Roshan returned to the silver screen, and was launched as an actor in Kaho Na…Pyaar Hai. He soon became the heartthrob of the entire nation!

Then came a string of flops and he was almost written off.  People even addressed him as a ONE FILM WONDER. But then he bounced back with Karan Johar’s Kabhi Khushi Kabhie Gham in the year 2011.

Since then Hrithik Roshan has never looked back. Some of his memorable work includes films like Dhoom 2, Jodha Akbar, Zindagi Na Milegi Dobaara, Luck By Chance, Guzaarish and Agneepath.

He is India’s first superhero with the Krrish trilogy; Koi…Mil Gaya (2003), Krrish (2006) and the recent Krrish 3 (2013), which is breaking records at the Box-Office.

Hrithik Roshan’s life-size wax figure was installed at London’s Madame Tussauds Wax Museum on January 20, 2011, making him the fifth Indian actor to have been replicated as a wax statue in the museum. Another statue was installed in Washington, D.C. in 2012.

Last birthday, the scene outside his residence in El Palazzo, Juhu was bustling with activity. He had decided to celebrate his thirty ninth birthday with the media and share his excitement and joy. But this year, things are different.

We would like to wish Hrithik Roshan a great year ahead and hope that he comes out of all the crises sooner then expected.

Source: http://businessofcinema.com

7 ways to choose the right life partner

 by Meghna Mukherjee

Selecting the right life partner is necessary to lead a happy married life. Here's how you can select your perfect one

There are many factors that one needs to consider when choosing a life partner. The most important aspect is to consider things that are crucial to you.

·                        Find someone who you can connect with easily
              It is very important to choose somebody who you can easily strike a conversation with.                  This way, you can enjoy doing things and talking about them together without getting                  bored.

·    Potential partner with same interests
Selecting someone who shares a lot of common interests with you will work in your favour. Remember that all your interests don't really have to be the same, but some would do. Says clinical psychologist and relationship expert Seema Hingorrany, "When you decide to spend your life with someone, you must look at things that the two of you would love to do together. For example, if you are a movie buff, you would ideally like to be with someone who enjoys movies as well. This will make your life interesting."

·    Consider your partner's intellect
If you are a laid-back person and your partner is an over-achiever, that could lead to a threat in your marriage. You must see eye to eye on how both of you are able to think and process things.

·    It's okay to have standards
While choosing a life partner, you need to consider your and your family's standards. Though it's okay to choose someone who probably does not belong to the same strata of society as yours, make sure that he/she's not completely off the mark.

·    You should have respect for one another
You obviously cannot spend your life with someone who has no respect for you or your dreams/goals or your personality. So, choose someone who will acknowledge you for the rest of your life.

·    Is your potential trustworthy
In this day and age, it is extremely important to choose someone you can trust. You definitely cannot lead a happy marriage if you cannot trust each other or have faith.

·    Spend time together
Just as important as it is to have similar interests, it is also crucial to be with someone who gives you enough time and who you would love to spend time with.


Source: http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com

An Eternal Love Story- Riteish and Genelia Deshmukh by Meenu Bahuguna

They fight, they play

and that’s the way, 

they are meant to stay!

Some Love Stories are Meant to be Forever…

Year 2002, it was a day just like any other day but who knew two hearts are going to be one and forever after this day. A 16 year old girl, full of inhibitions came at the Hyderabad airport with her mom to meet a young boy from an influential family of Maharashtra. The girl was Genelia D’Souza and this young man was none other than Riteish Deshmukh.

Surprising Twist- Destiny has Different Plans

Initially, Genelia thought that being a chief minister’s son, Riteish will be a spoilt brat and full of tantrums. So, she decided to give him attitude before he did! Oblivious to her thoughts, Riteish arrived on the terminal and saw this tall girl, who shook hands with him and started looking in a different direction. This cold reaction left him wondering, as why she was behaving so awkward? 

This was their first meeting for the test shoot of their debut film- Tujhe Meri Kasam. 

On the Sets...

To Genelia’s surprise, opposite to her thoughts, Riteish came out to be extremely humble and polite with everybody on the sets. During the shoots, Riteish was immensely respectful towards Genelia’s parents. The actress found it endearing that despite being the Chief Minster’s son (Late-Shri Vilasrao Deshmukh) Riteish was completely down-to-earth.

Best Friends Forever- They Complete Each Other

The story moved forward from here, the two youngsters made things easy for each other on the sets. Not much people know Riteish is also a professional architect, and architecture is what he used to discuss with Genelia on the sets. And young Genelia used to share updates about her college and exams with him.

I Love You- Never Happened 'Officially'

Soon, they became best friends off the sets. The fondness grew but no formal proposals were made from any side. 

After the Hyderabad shoot, Riteish came back to Mumbai. By now, he had started missing Genelia’s company. She also could not keep herself untouched by his charm. The aura of Riteish was slowly taking over her.

Love was never a sudden thing for them, It was a slow process, where they first got to know each other and before they could realise it, they were in love!

Journey from Friends to Best Friends to Life Partners

A 16 year old girl and a 24 year old boy, met back in the year 2002. They gradually fell in love and after a 9 year long relationship, finally tied the knot on February 3, 2012. This youngest couple of Bollywood literally grew up together. The beauty of this relationship is that they were so used to each other as friends that till now also they don't know when love 'officially' happened and who proposed whom?

A Decade of Love but the Discovery is still ON!

In the times, where break-ups and link-ups are like the trends around, this is one inspiring couple that has stood by each other for more than a decade now. Riteish- Genelia, have always been in love since their first film, but being from a non-filmy background, never disclosed it in the media.  The strong bond of commitment between them has made them the first couple of Bollywood to never have a single share of controversy or link-ups with any other co-star till date.

Secrets to a Happy Married Life: A relationship based on understanding and friendship without insecurities, makes this beautiful couple shine out from rest of the celeb crowd.

Those Unsaid Promises:

Riteish: Genelia gives him unconditional support and love. Her love is the most amazing thing for him. He is deeply and madly in love with his wife.

Genelia: Riteish is a secure husband and even the decision to work in movies after marriage is totally her choice. Her husband is always by her side to support her in her decisions. For her, guys like Riteish are rare in today's world.

Most Beautiful Part about This Couple

There were no formal proposals, no candle light dinners to woo each other. For Riteish and Genelia being happy with the person one loves has always been the most important thing. With their parents' blessings always by their side, this couple never gave a second thought to marriage. The most romantic aspect of this celeb-jodi is that they started off being friends and even after their marriage are still the best of friends.

A journey from being 'sweet' young lovers to a beautiful 'mature' married couple- Wishing this cutest couple's love to blossom and be as pure as it is now- Forever!

Source: http://www.bollywoodshaadis.com

4 Lessons Indian Husbands Must Learn from Sachin Tendulkar By Meenu Bahuguna

Sachin Tendulkar, the Master Blaster, is an inspiration to the world. He made his international debut when he was merely 16 years old. Mathew Hayden, the Australian batsman once said, “I have seen God, he bats at no. 4 for India in Test.” He clearly meant Sachin Tendulkar.

Our 'Little Master' has made the world proud with his antics on the field and has been named among the greatest cricketers of all times. Professional achievements aside, there is another part to Sachin– a shy boyfriend, a loyal husband and a committed life partner. As inspirational as he is in cricket, there are a lot of things that all Indian husbands can learn from this 'God of Cricket' too.

Dedication and commitment

For a person of Sachin’s stature, there is definitely no dearth of beautiful temptations. But Sachin is one of the few cricketers whose name has never been involved in a controversy with regard to his love life. While some of his contemporaries were chasing Bollywood divas, Sachin remain chaste and oblivious to abounding enticements surrounding him in all part of the world. His commitment and love towards his wife is really inspirational. Well it won't be wrong if we say that every woman should be blessed with a husband who is as dedicated as Sachin Tendulkar.

Focus on qualitative time

Since Sachin travels all over the world almost all round the year, he hardly gets to spend a lot of time with his family. However, the Master Blaster balances his work and family by ensuring that he spends qualitative time with his wife and kids whenever he is at home. He takes them out on holidays, family dinners and bonds with his family lovingly whenever around. His wife Anjali says, “He hasn’t spent Diwali at home since we got married. But it really doesn’t matter that it’s Diwali… any time he spends at home is great!” Sachin epitomises the fact that quality of time is always more important than quantity.

Only love matters

Sachin’s wife Anjali is six years elder to him. She is at least one inch taller than him. She is from a different community and culture. But all these petty things just didn’t matter. For Sachin, the boyfriend, as well as for Sachin, the husband, love is all that matters. This is one quality that every husband can emulate. Nothing is bigger than love. Once in a BBC interview when asked about his dream women, Sachin answered ‘my wife’ without batting an eyelid.

Recognises his wife’s sacrifices

Unlike a lot of husbands who never recognise the sacrifices that their wives make for the family, Sachin has gone on record time and again recognising Anjali’s contribution in his life. He concedes that he never has the time to teach his kids or spend much time with them, he always endorses that it is his wife who manages everything so beautifully at the personal front. He recognises and respects the fact that Anjali gave up her doctor’s career so that she could manage the family.

He says that Anjali has been his biggest support and even mentioned that when he is on the field batting, his wife fasts for him!

Sachin Tendulkar is a true inspiration, not only in the field of cricket but also off the field. Be it love and dedication to his family or his humility, there is a lot that every man can emulate from him. So, all the husbands out there, look beyond the Master Blaster's cricketing shots and you are sure to score a century with your wife!

source: http://www.bollywoodshaadis.com/