Body language In Relationship

#BodyLanguage In #Relationship  In #Relationship 

Body Language is a major form of non-verbal #communication and sometimes speaks even louder than the words. Words may lie or even remain unsaid, but usually, body speaks honestly, unless the other person is trained enough to manage the body #language efficiently.

• ·    A simple warm #smile with good eye contact and physical proximity, an attempt to touch you with an alert look is an indication that your partner is interested in you.
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• ·    If he or she is not maintaining eye contact or avoiding looking at you, looking frequently at the watch or texting people from the cell phone, paying attention more to the surroundings, is an obvious sign is that he or she is not in the #mood or not interested in you.
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• ·    Continuous foot tapping, clenching the fists, fidgeting with the hair or fingers indicate anxiety or excitement, depending upon the situation.
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• ·    As per the norms of body language crossing the arms close to the chest indicates that the person is not open for any form of discussion.
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• ·    If that person’s gaze is focused or fixed far away, it is an indication that he or she is in deep thoughts on a different subject and not interested in the current situation.
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• ·    The body language is unique for each and every person, all of the above mentioned points may not be applicable to everyone, but yes, “change” in body language is the attention point.

(Source: http://in.lifestyle.yahoo.com/)

Importance –History- Story behind ROSE DAY

Roses and love

Roses had always been the symbol of love. Jewelleries, clothing and all other accessories fall in the second category. Be it expressing the love for the first time or to show your love to him/her in a frequent manner, rose had always been the choice. Single or in a bouquet, lovers always love it.

Roses, their color and meaning

Does anyone know that roses and their colors have specific meaning? Well, I came to know these things from internet and I was really amused. Check out the below list to get a complete idea.

Red Roses

Red roses are universally known as the lover’s rose. It is the ultimate symbol of love and there isn’t a romantic day without these red roses. They convey the feelings of sincere love, respect, courage and passion.

White Roses

White roses are traditional wedding flowers. They are also known as bridal roses and symbolize purity and innocence. It also loyally means “I Love You”. White roses convey feelings of love, friendship, respect and even hope.

Pink Roses

Pink roses usually represent grace and elegance. It is gifted as an expression of admiration, feminine and refinement. While red roses give a bold statement of love, pink roses imparts a gentler meaning for it. The meaning also differs as the hue variation. The shades of pink communicate everything ranging from love and admiration to gentleness and grace.

Yellow Roses

Earlier the yellow roses were used to symbolize jealousy and dying love. As the time went on, the yellow color was connected with sun, and started having a universal meaning for friendship. The sun-filled color of yellow roses represents friendship, joy and caring. It can also be used to convey your feelings of appreciation and gladness.

Lavender Roses

This is a great Valentine Flower that symbolizes “Love at first sight”. Lavender roses are unique beauty and they have captured the imagination of lovers. It is a perfect symbol of enchantment and desire. They are the undeniable option of expressing sincere love and appreciation.

Orange Roses

Fiery colour of these orange roses is conjured up with passionate romantic thoughts. Warm, yet vibrant, they are the typical meaning of desire and enthusiasm. Being a powerful combination of red and yellow colors, they also represent a bridge between the feelings of love and friendship.

Bouquet of Roses

Multi-colored roses in a bouquet send him/her additional message. Like, red and white roses in a bouquet represent the unity, while yellow and red roses symbolize the happiness.

What’s in the number?

Even the numbers of roses you present have special meaning.  Check them out too.

·    Single Rose – Love at First Sight, I Still Love You.

·    Two Roses – Mutual Love and Affection, Marry Me.

·    Three Roses – Traditional one month Anniversary Gift.

·    Six Roses – Need to be Loved or Cherished, Infatuation.

·    Nine Roses – We’ll be together forever.

·    Eleven Roses – I Love you truly and deeply.

·    Twelve Roses – Shouts “Be Mine”.

·    Thirteen Roses – Secret Admirer.

·    Twenty Four Roses – Shouts “I’m yours”.

·    Thirty Six Roses – I’m Head over Heels in Love.

·    Bouquet of more than Fifty Roses – Limitless Love.

Now, this Rose Day, which color  and how many are you going to present to your valentine? Happy Rose Day buddies!

New age rules for a happy marriage

by Joyoti Mahanta

1.    Time-out
While there are many couples who like to resolve their issues before calling it a night, even if it keeps them up till the wee hours, many relationship experts say that sometimes it’s probably a good idea to sleep over your issues. This way, you can calm down, re-think your stand and not make a decision in haste. Same goes for your spouse. 

2.    Holiday apart
You don’t need to go everywhere together—it’s not like you are attached at the hip. Unless you’re on your honeymoon, it’s okay to holiday apart. Your interests may not match and you may not want to visit the same places. In such cases, it’s better to holiday with your friends; just like it were a bachelorette, rather than spending money on a vacation where one partner is unhappy. That will ruin the others mood too. 

3.    Individual accounts
Many relationship counsellors have said that financial issues are a major cause for breakdown of marriages, especially among today’s independent lot. It may seem like a good idea to maintain separate bank accounts instead of the traditional joint ones. While some may consider this a breach of trust, it seems like a logical way to ensure control over your finances. 

4.    Don’t shop together
Let’s face it—most men hate shopping. They may tag along because of the incessant begging or complaining, but isn’t it better when your shopping buddy is someone who enjoys shopping as well. The next time you are in the mood to splurge, get one of your friends to tag along, who likes to shop and doesn’t mind the long hours.

5.    Socialise separately
Many couples have a set of common friends, but it isn’t necessary to abandon the friends that you have known before marriage. In fact, having different sets of friends will give both of you some space in the relationship. Often, you should let your husband party with his friends, especially when there is a good match on TV, and this way you can make it a date with your girlfriends. 

6.    Share household chores
Women work hard too, so why should we be expected to do all the household chores or confine ourselves to the kitchen once we’re home after a long day of work. As a couple, you should take turns to do household chores like cooking, cleaning and washing the utensils, or atleast offer to help instead of one person toiling away.

7.    Respect ‘me time’
It’s healthy to spend time by yourself once in a while and you don’t have to feel guilty about it. Many relationship experts say that doing things for yourself often leads to a happier relationship.

What makes Salman Khan so popular?

Salman Khan, who is popular with all age groups, is truly a people's person. He is a hero for the masses and inspires his fans. He involves his fans while promoting his films, interacts with them and that's what makes him one of the most wanted Khans. People can connect to him and his style and his attitude has charmed one and all.

Charity: Salman the man with a golden heart has inspired many of his fans to get involved in charity work. The actor also launched Being Human, a non-profit organization which helps underprivileged children around India to get better education.

Salman’s famous dialogue ‘Ek Baar Jo Maine Commitment Kardi To Main Apne Apki Bhi Nahi Sunta’ is something he implements even in his life. He is known for maintaining his relations and has always gone out of his way to help his friends. Recently, the actor was seen promoting Aamir Khan’s Dhoom 3 on the sets of Bigg Boss 7. He is popular for his support to many. His selflessness makes him popular in Bollywood.

Entertainer: He is a true entertainer. His unique dancing skills and ability to say what he wants has thrilled many. Salman has a different way of dealing with criticism and his dexterity to keep the star power away from his personality makes him the true Dabangg star of B’town.

Godfather to many: Salman Khan has encouraged many aspiring actors to make it big in Bollywood. He has been a fitness guide to actors like Govinda and Mithun Chakraborty. Newcomers like Arjun Kapoor, Pulkit Samrat, Zareen Khan and Katrina Kaif don’t miss a chance to speak about Salman’s generosity.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/

7 ways to choose the right life partner

 by Meghna Mukherjee

Selecting the right life partner is necessary to lead a happy married life. Here's how you can select your perfect one

There are many factors that one needs to consider when choosing a life partner. The most important aspect is to consider things that are crucial to you.

·                        Find someone who you can connect with easily
              It is very important to choose somebody who you can easily strike a conversation with.                  This way, you can enjoy doing things and talking about them together without getting                  bored.

·    Potential partner with same interests
Selecting someone who shares a lot of common interests with you will work in your favour. Remember that all your interests don't really have to be the same, but some would do. Says clinical psychologist and relationship expert Seema Hingorrany, "When you decide to spend your life with someone, you must look at things that the two of you would love to do together. For example, if you are a movie buff, you would ideally like to be with someone who enjoys movies as well. This will make your life interesting."

·    Consider your partner's intellect
If you are a laid-back person and your partner is an over-achiever, that could lead to a threat in your marriage. You must see eye to eye on how both of you are able to think and process things.

·    It's okay to have standards
While choosing a life partner, you need to consider your and your family's standards. Though it's okay to choose someone who probably does not belong to the same strata of society as yours, make sure that he/she's not completely off the mark.

·    You should have respect for one another
You obviously cannot spend your life with someone who has no respect for you or your dreams/goals or your personality. So, choose someone who will acknowledge you for the rest of your life.

·    Is your potential trustworthy
In this day and age, it is extremely important to choose someone you can trust. You definitely cannot lead a happy marriage if you cannot trust each other or have faith.

·    Spend time together
Just as important as it is to have similar interests, it is also crucial to be with someone who gives you enough time and who you would love to spend time with.


Source: http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com

10 Ways to Melt a Woman's Heart

Dedicated to Specially for Boys 

1. Call Her When you're feeling Sad, 

2. Ask to See A Picture of Her; 

When She was a Child..! 

3. Occasionally Call Her; 

By Her First and Middle Names, :)) 

4. When She's feeling Insecure; 

Stare Into Her Eyes and Tell Her;

"There is No-One in the World 

Who could be as Right for you as She Is.." 

5. Call Her just Before you get on the Plane, :)) 

6. Try Desperately; To Make Her Laugh 

When She's feeling Down, 

7. In the Middle of a Conversation; 

Tell Her you Love Her.. :)) 

8. Notice When She's Wearing Something New, :)) 

9. Hug Her When She gets Jealous.., 

Hug Her Hard..! x 

10. Put your Arms Around Her; 

When you Introduce Her to your friends and family.. 

Must Try Guyz, 

Its Really Works.. 

An Eternal Love Story- Riteish and Genelia Deshmukh by Meenu Bahuguna

They fight, they play

and that’s the way, 

they are meant to stay!

Some Love Stories are Meant to be Forever…

Year 2002, it was a day just like any other day but who knew two hearts are going to be one and forever after this day. A 16 year old girl, full of inhibitions came at the Hyderabad airport with her mom to meet a young boy from an influential family of Maharashtra. The girl was Genelia D’Souza and this young man was none other than Riteish Deshmukh.

Surprising Twist- Destiny has Different Plans

Initially, Genelia thought that being a chief minister’s son, Riteish will be a spoilt brat and full of tantrums. So, she decided to give him attitude before he did! Oblivious to her thoughts, Riteish arrived on the terminal and saw this tall girl, who shook hands with him and started looking in a different direction. This cold reaction left him wondering, as why she was behaving so awkward? 

This was their first meeting for the test shoot of their debut film- Tujhe Meri Kasam. 

On the Sets...

To Genelia’s surprise, opposite to her thoughts, Riteish came out to be extremely humble and polite with everybody on the sets. During the shoots, Riteish was immensely respectful towards Genelia’s parents. The actress found it endearing that despite being the Chief Minster’s son (Late-Shri Vilasrao Deshmukh) Riteish was completely down-to-earth.

Best Friends Forever- They Complete Each Other

The story moved forward from here, the two youngsters made things easy for each other on the sets. Not much people know Riteish is also a professional architect, and architecture is what he used to discuss with Genelia on the sets. And young Genelia used to share updates about her college and exams with him.

I Love You- Never Happened 'Officially'

Soon, they became best friends off the sets. The fondness grew but no formal proposals were made from any side. 

After the Hyderabad shoot, Riteish came back to Mumbai. By now, he had started missing Genelia’s company. She also could not keep herself untouched by his charm. The aura of Riteish was slowly taking over her.

Love was never a sudden thing for them, It was a slow process, where they first got to know each other and before they could realise it, they were in love!

Journey from Friends to Best Friends to Life Partners

A 16 year old girl and a 24 year old boy, met back in the year 2002. They gradually fell in love and after a 9 year long relationship, finally tied the knot on February 3, 2012. This youngest couple of Bollywood literally grew up together. The beauty of this relationship is that they were so used to each other as friends that till now also they don't know when love 'officially' happened and who proposed whom?

A Decade of Love but the Discovery is still ON!

In the times, where break-ups and link-ups are like the trends around, this is one inspiring couple that has stood by each other for more than a decade now. Riteish- Genelia, have always been in love since their first film, but being from a non-filmy background, never disclosed it in the media.  The strong bond of commitment between them has made them the first couple of Bollywood to never have a single share of controversy or link-ups with any other co-star till date.

Secrets to a Happy Married Life: A relationship based on understanding and friendship without insecurities, makes this beautiful couple shine out from rest of the celeb crowd.

Those Unsaid Promises:

Riteish: Genelia gives him unconditional support and love. Her love is the most amazing thing for him. He is deeply and madly in love with his wife.

Genelia: Riteish is a secure husband and even the decision to work in movies after marriage is totally her choice. Her husband is always by her side to support her in her decisions. For her, guys like Riteish are rare in today's world.

Most Beautiful Part about This Couple

There were no formal proposals, no candle light dinners to woo each other. For Riteish and Genelia being happy with the person one loves has always been the most important thing. With their parents' blessings always by their side, this couple never gave a second thought to marriage. The most romantic aspect of this celeb-jodi is that they started off being friends and even after their marriage are still the best of friends.

A journey from being 'sweet' young lovers to a beautiful 'mature' married couple- Wishing this cutest couple's love to blossom and be as pure as it is now- Forever!

Source: http://www.bollywoodshaadis.com

Physical attraction does make a difference in a marriage.

Physical appearance plays a crucial role in shaping new relationships, but does it continue to affect established relationships, such as marriage? In the current study, the authors examined how observer ratings of each spouse's facial attractiveness and the difference between those ratings were associated with (a) observations of social support behavior and (b) reports of marital satisfaction.

In contrast to the robust and almost universally positive effects of levels of attractiveness on new relationships, the only association between levels of attractiveness and the outcomes of these marriages was that attractive husbands were less satisfied.

Further, in contrast to the importance of matched attractiveness to new relationships, similarity in attractiveness was unrelated to spouses' satisfaction and behavior. Instead, the relative difference between partners' levels of attractiveness appeared to be most important in predicting marital behavior, such that both spouses behaved more positively in relationships in which wives were more attractive than their husbands, but they behaved more negatively in relationships in which husbands were more attractive than their wives. These results highlight the importance of dyadic examinations of the effects of spouses' qualities on their marriages.

Source: Beyond initial attraction: Physical attractiveness in newlywed marriage. By McNulty, James K.; Neff, Lisa A.; Karney, Benjamin R. Journal of Family

There are ways to find that perfect partner.

Marriage isn't all fun and games.

So if you're gonna do it, do it right. But how do you know who to marry? Should you just trust your feelings or pick the person who "looks good on paper"? Luckily, science has answers for us:

1) Find someone who you idealize and who idealizes you. (I've posted about the benefits delusion has on love before.) If you're already cynical about the person by the time you hit the altar, you're in trouble:

This study examined the long-term consequences of idealization in marriage, using both daily diary and questionnaire data collected from a sample of 168 newlywed couples who participated in a 4-wave, 13-year longitudinal study of marriage. Idealization was operationalized as the tendency for people to perceive their partner as more agreeable than would be expected based on their reports of their partner's agreeable and disagreeable behaviors. Spouses who idealized one another were more in love with each other as newlyweds. Longitudinal analyses suggested that spouses were less likely to suffer declines in love when they idealized one another as newlyweds. Newlywed levels of idealization did not predict divorce.
Source: "Positive Illusions in Marital Relationships: A 13-Year Longitudinal Study" from Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin

2) Marry somebody with high self-esteem. Ladies, you're probably already attracted to this. Guys, watch out for women who don't feel good about themselves:

A model of the commitment-insurance system is proposed to examine how low and high self-esteem people cope with the costs interdependence imposes on autonomous goal pursuits. In this system, autonomy costs automatically activate compensatory cognitive processes that attach greater value to the partner. Greater partner valuing compels greater responsiveness to the partner’s needs. Two experiments and a daily diary study of newlyweds supported the model. Autonomy costs automatically activate more positive implicit evaluations of the partner. On explicit measures of positive illusions, high self-esteem people continue to compensate for costs. However, cost-primed low self-esteem people correct and override their positive implicit sentiments when they have the opportunity to do so. Such corrections put the marriages of low self-esteem people at risk: Failing to compensate for costs predicted declines in satisfaction over a 1-year period. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2009 APA, all rights reserved)

Source: "Commitment insurance: Compensating for the autonomy costs of interdependence in close relationships." from Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

3) Ladies, want a husband who is actively involved with his kids' lives? Find a guy with higher socioeconomic status. Plus it'll make your kids smarter. (Money never hurts, does it?):

Previous studies in developed-world populations have found that fathers become more involved with their sons than with their daughters and become more involved with their children if they are of high socioeconomic status (SES) than if they are of low SES. This paper addresses the idea proposed by Kaplan et al. that this pattern arises because high-SES fathers and fathers of sons can make more difference to offspring outcomes. Using a large longitudinal British dataset, I show that paternal involvement in childhood has positive associations with offspring IQ at age 11, and offspring social mobility by age 42, though not with numbers of grandchildren. For IQ, there is an interaction between father's SES and his level of involvement, with high-SES fathers making more difference to the child's IQ by their investment than low-SES fathers do. The effects of paternal investment on the IQ and social mobility of sons and daughters were the same. Results are discussed with regard to the evolved psychology and social patterning of paternal behavior in humans.

Source: "Why do some dads get more involved than others? Evidence from a large British cohort" from Evolution & Human Behavior"

3) Guys, you want to avoid that whole "involuntarily celibate" situation that men fear after years of marriage? Don't marry a woman who is sexually submissive:

Women are bombarded with images of women's sexual submission and subservience to male partners. The authors argue that women internalize this submissive role, namely, they associate sex implicitly with submission. The authors propose that this association leads to submissive sexual behavior, thereby reducing sexual autonomy and arousal. Study 1 found that women implicitly associated sex with submission. Study 2 showed that women's implicit association of sex with submission predicted greater personal adoption of a submissive sexual role. Study 3 found that men did not implicitly associate sex with submission. Study 4 demonstrated that women's adoption of a submissive sexual role predicted lower reported arousal and greater reported difficulty becoming sexually aroused; sexual autonomy mediated these effects.

Source: "Sexual Submissiveness in Women: Costs for Sexual Autonomy and Arousal" from Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin

4) Find someone who is conscientious and even a bit neurotic if you want a long and healthy life together:

The present study tested the effect of conscientiousness and neuroticism on health and physical limitations in a representative sample of older couples (N= 2,203) drawn from the Health and Retirement Study. As in past research, conscientiousness predicted better health and physical functioning, whereas neuroticism predicted worse health and physical functioning. Unique to this study was the finding that conscientiousness demonstrated a compensatory effect, such that husbands' conscientiousness predicted wives' health outcomes above and beyond wives' own personality. The same pattern held true for wives' conscientiousness as a predictor of husbands' health outcomes. Furthermore, conscientiousness and neuroticism acted synergistically, such that people who scored high for both traits were healthier than others. Finally, we found that the combination of high conscientiousness and high neuroticism was also compensatory, such that the wives of men with this combination of personality traits reported better health than other women.

Source: "Compensatory Conscientiousness and Health in Older Couples" from Psychological Science

6 signs your relationship is in trouble

Here are six signs your relationship may be in trouble. 

1. The relationship isn't a priority
Between work, kids and life, it can be easy for a relationship to become lost among other responsibilities. "There's an ebb and flow in relationships," says Shizgal. "There are seasons, there's change – it's a work in progress."

However, if your relationship is chronically not a priority then that’s a problem. If your relationship is not a priority, then you've "lost the mutual responsibility for the health of the relationship and the maintenance of the relationship," explains Shizgal.

2. You expect your partner to meet all of your needs 
We often come into a relationship with an unrealistic expectation that our partner will fulfil all of our needs. Your partner isn't your parent, though, so it's not his or her job to meet all of your needs, explains Shizgal.

"It's hard to separate out that my unmet needs are for me to figure out and for my partner to support me in," she says. If you blame your partner – or vice versa – for not assisting you financially or for not helping you cope with stress and anxiety, then you need to step back and consider whose job it really is to fulfil those needs.

3. Checking out
If one or both of you is checking out of your relationship, then that's a problem. According to Shizgal, a relationship is a "conscious partnership" that involves "both people taking responsibility for the relationship, because two people have to be reliably, sustainably engaged," she says.

You need to be aware of how your actions – or lack thereof – are impacting the relationship. Ask yourself what you're bringing to the relationship. Are you present? If you're checking out of the relatinonship, then you're not engaged in a conscious partnership and that's not healthy 

4. Lack of eye contact
"When couples are in distress, even in small arguments, they tend to stop looking at each other and avoid eye contact," says Shizgal.

You could be avoiding eye contact for many reasons: maybe you're not telling the truth or perhaps you're afraid of facing your problems. Either way, not making eye contact is a physical sign of a problem in your relationship. Ask yourself why you avoid eye contact, says Shizgal. Then, actually make an effort to make eye contact with your partner.  

5. You've stopped fighting
Fighting is a sign we often associate with a troubled relationship, and while fighting too much is not healthy, not fighting at all isn't healthy either, says Shizgal. "I think it's important to be able to fight and disagree and survive," she says. "Often, when we can work through conflicts or disappointments, we end up moving closer together."

If you don't fight it usually means that you're scared of upsetting your partner by saying that you're mad. However, if you don't express how you feel then you'll never work through your issues as a couple.

6. A pattern of pursuit and avoidance
"Sometimes people get so scared of jeopardizing their relationship or pushing their partner further away, that one person ends up chasing the other person, while the second person avoids them," says Shizgal. She calls this a "pattern of pursuit and avoidance" or "avoidance/avoidance."

This is usually a symptom of a relationship where the couple doesn't communicate or isn't sure how to communicate well. A couple that is stuck in this pattern has to learn how to communicate effectively and to actually address issues, instead of avoiding them. 

Ultimately, relationships are a work in progress and you need to ask yourself if you can work through the issues you and your partner may have. Can you talk out your differences? Can you renegotiate your responsibilities so that everyone is happier? If not, then your relationship has a serious hurdle that it may not be able to overcome.

source-http://www.canadianliving.com/

The Dangers of Arguing in Front of Your Kids

You know that sick feeling that comes over you when you and your husband are shouting angrily at each other -- and then you look up and see your child standing wide-eyed in the doorway?

If you're like me, you can remember just how upset you felt when you heard your own parents argue. By the time we were preteens, my sister and I had suggested to my parents that they get divorced if they couldn't get along any better. They never did anything of the kind, so I have to conclude it bothered us more than it bothered them.

Is Arguing in Front of the Kids Always Harmful?

An occasional disagreement -- call it a "heated negotiation" -- during which you treat each other with respect and move into problem-solving, say therapists, is actually a good thing for kids. It's considered a form of role modeling. But arguments in which you repeat the same points over and over, or call each other names -- where you are venting resentments rather than solving problems -- have no up side for the children. "If you bully one another, your kids learn to bully others. "And they will turn that treatment right back on you once they are teenagers."

Do Parental Fights Have a Negative Influence on Kids?

"Children start by being frightened by their parents arguing," says Jacobs. "Later, they become disgusted. 'How can they live like this?' they wonder. Eventually, they develop a fear of being similarly trapped, and as adults may have the tendency to bail out of relationships early."

What Can Parents Do to Minimize Any Trauma?

If kids witness a bad argument, don't sweep it under the rug, says Lindquist, go ahead and apologize to them. Reassure them that you love each other. Mention specifically, in age-appropriate terms, how you would have liked to talk about the conflict. For example: "I'm sorry Daddy and I were arguing last night. We both feel bad when we say bad words. We can work things out better when we don't interrupt each other and use soft voices."

How to Keep Arguments Under Control

1. Argue as though the neighbors are able to hear you No name calling, no foul language, no raised voices.
2. Actively use your listening skills.
3. Give direct eye contact and do nothing else while your spouse is
talking. Look riveted. Nod your head, no matter what they are
saying.
4. Repeat what the person has said. Use as many of the same
words as possible.
5. Sympathize. Let the other person know you understand that they
are feeling bad, even if they are blaming you for the problem.
6. Ask, "Is there anything more you want to tell me?" Give your
partner a chance to discover deeper feelings, and to shift to a
calmer, more neutral place.

If you find yourself getting carried away, call a time-out. Stop right there and agree to talk later. Then make a time to sit down and have a real discussion about what is bothering you -- the bigger issues of your life and your marriage.

And do it when your children do not have to be an audience.

Mangalsutra

Mangalsutra - The Sacred Symbol of #Marriage

A Hindu marriage symbolizes not just coming together of two individuals, but also the bonding of understanding, commitment, mutual love, oneness and spiritual growth. Traditionally, #Hindu marriage is much more than just celebration and fun. It demands sacrifice, companionship, #dedication, and #devotion from both the partners. Each and every #rituals and customs associated with marriage portrays the real essence of #wedding. Traditionally, there are five signs of marital status of women, according to Hindu #culture- #mangalsutra, toe rings, #kumkum, bangles and a nose ring. Talking about Mangalsutra, the word denotes a significant meaning. While mangal means aupiscious, sutra can be deciphered as a thread.

Significance Of Mangalsutra In Hindu Marriage

Mangalsutra, as such, is not just a jewelry item, but a sacred thread of #love and #goodwill worn by #married #women, as a symbol of their successful marriage. An inevitable part of Hindu marriage ceremony, Mangalsutra refers to a revered symbol of wedlock. India being a land of diversity, different regions in the country have assigned different names for this scared symbol. While it is known as the thaaly or maangalyam in Kannada, Telugu and Tamil in Southern India, people in the northern part of India calls it Mangalsutra. It is believed that the concept of this sacred thread had its roots laid down in South #India. Having immense significance and importance, it traveled to North India as well and today, forms an imperative part of the wedding ceremony.

Mangalsutra is the token of dignity and love given to a #bride by her #groom. 
On the wedding day, the groom ties the Mangalsutra around the neck of the bride, while the priest recites Vedic hymns and prays. It signifies the union of the bride and the groom, amidst the presence of deities, who are believed to be attending the marriage. In some regions, the groom ties first and his sisters tie the rest. Talking about its appearance, this sacred thread is made of two strings of small black beads with a locket or pendant. Sometimes, it is also made of small beads of gold and black beads, with gold and diamond pendant.

Considered auspicious for married women, mangalsutra is believed to have divine powers. Each of the black beads in the Mangalsutra, signify protection from evil power and are believed to protect the marriage of a couple, essentially the life of the husband. Hindu women feel superstitious, when this scared thread breaks or gets lost. In the present times, mangalsutra are boasts of various designs and patterns. While the Gujaratis and Marwaris often go for a diamond pendant, Maharashtrians have a pendant that consists of one or two vatis and Bengalis in the meanwhile, have coral incorporated in the designing of the Mangalsutra.

Present Scenario

Today, the concept of wearing a mangalsutra has changed considerably. It is more of a fashion statement than a symbol of marriage, thanks to modernization. With the progressive times, the wearing of mangalsutra in working women has considerably reduced. There is also a marked change in the style and making of mangalsutra over the years. Previously, women used to wear simple design mangalsutra, with small pendants, but now, the trend is to wear short length ones, that too with a single string. Instead of gold pendants, they prefer diamond ones. However, the black beads have still managed to remain constant. Whatever may be the reason to adore it, mangalsutra surely symbolizes the real essence and concept of a Hindu marriage. 

ref. - www.weddings.iloveindia.com

Lovestory

#lovestory... 

He might be the youngest of them all but he's surely the most romantic. After all, he #proposed to his lady love at the age of 4! And not to his current wife Avantika, but his first crush #JuhiChawla. Actor Imran Khan proposed to the #actress with a ring during the shooting of #QayamatSeQayamatTak, which Juhi even accepted. However, soon Imran realised his mistake and would you believe it, he even asked her to return her ring, which she did.

However, the actor still considers her his first #wife and as per a report jokes, "The #relationship didn't work out, but she is my first wife. I still feel very bad about it (not working out)."